{"product_id":"not-the-perfect-victim-paperback","title":"Not the Perfect Victim - Paperback","description":"\u003cdiv\u003e\u003cp style=\"text-align: right;\"\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/reportcopyrightinfringement.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\"\u003e\u003cb\u003eReport copyright infringement\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\u003cp\u003eby \u003cb\u003eAnna Kahill\u003c\/b\u003e (Author)\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eNot the Perfect Victim: A Memoir of Surviving Sexual Violence, a Late Autism Diagnosis, and the Fight for Justice\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e \u003cstrong\u003eBy Anna Kahill\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003e\"I didn't know the moment my voice was stolen. But I remember the first time I tried to scream and nothing came out.\"\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAt nineteen, Anna Kahill was raped. The trauma split her life in two-but it would take seventeen more years to find the words, diagnoses, and courage to face what happened. For over a decade, she masked her pain, working as a healthcare professional, living abroad, navigating motherhood-all while dealing with suicidal thoughts, panic attacks, and dissociation. What she didn't know was that the trauma was not the only thing going unseen. She was also autistic. She had complex PTSD. And like so many others, she had been diagnosed with just anxiety, dismissed, and silenced.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eNot the Perfect Victim\u003c\/strong\u003e is a searing and elegantly crafted memoir about what happens when society expects silence, when justice systems re-traumatize, and when survival requires becoming your own advocate. Kahill weaves poetic reflection with forensic insight to expose the gaps in our systems, the gaslighting within mental health care, and the price of telling your story when you're not the \"ideal\" victim.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eTold with raw honesty, clarity, and compassion, this book explores: \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhat it means to report a rape in Northern Ireland\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHow neurodivergent survivors are routinely misunderstood by institutions\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe impact of shame, Catholic guilt, and mothering after trauma\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe legacy of generational silence around abuse\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe limits-and possibilities-of forgiveness and justice\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eFrom the slow reclamation of memory to the agonizing confrontation with her rapist years later, Kahill offers a unique voice in the canon of survivor memoirs. Her story is not linear, not easily packaged-and that is precisely the point. This is not a story of perfect healing. It's a story of truth.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThis memoir is essential reading for survivors, therapists, legal professionals, feminists, and anyone seeking to understand the long-term impact of trauma. For readers of \u003cem\u003eKnow My Name\u003c\/em\u003e by Chanel Miller, \u003cem\u003eWhat My Bones Know\u003c\/em\u003e by Stephanie Foo, and \u003cem\u003eNotes to Self\u003c\/em\u003e by Emily Pine, this book adds a necessary voice from Ireland to the global conversation around justice and survival.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eThemes and Topics: \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e Sexual violence, survivor memoir, late autism diagnosis, neurodivergence and trauma, complex PTSD (cPTSD), masking, misdiagnosis, dissociation, Advocacy VSV, ABE interviews, rape culture, Catholic shame, psychoanalysis, justice system failures, suicidal ideation, intersection of gender and disability, survivor advocacy, victim-blaming, mother-daughter grief, transgenerational trauma.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eAbout the Author: \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e Anna Kahill is a pharmacist, mother, writer, and advocate for survivors of sexual violence. She lives in Northern Ireland. Her book blends lived experience, critical systems analysis, and neurodivergent insight. This is her debut memoir.\u003c\/p\u003e\n            \u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eNumber of Pages:\u003c\/strong\u003e 230\u003c\/div\u003e\n            \u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eDimensions:\u003c\/strong\u003e 0.52 x 8.5 x 5.5 IN\u003c\/div\u003e\n            \u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ePublication Date:\u003c\/strong\u003e September 09, 2025\u003c\/div\u003e\n            ","brand":"BooksCloud","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":47367503544505,"sku":"9781068290312","price":22.0,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0686\/4309\/4713\/files\/TIfpXO0iuJ9781068290312.webp?v=1780642237","url":"https:\/\/thoobo.com\/products\/not-the-perfect-victim-paperback","provider":"Thoobo","version":"1.0","type":"link"}